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Erica Galindo
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Last edited on: November 21, 2015.

Let us not become weary in doing good,

for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.

– Galatians 6:9

As we walk the journey to set healthy boundaries and find sanity in lives that have been insanely spinning out of control, I can’t stress enough the need to be strong in our convictions—strong and loving. We need to learn about our own choices—and how we must change our responses to the choices our adult children make. We need to learn that we can’t change our kids—and the fact is they may never change. It’s a sad thing to acknowledge—but it may be true. However, the opposite may be true as well. When we develop a backbone that is firm, straight and loving, there’s no telling how it may change the people we love.

And we do love them. No matter how angry they make us. No matter how they break our hearts. That’s why we’ve made so many poor enabling choices along the road. But no more. Our enabling days are behind us. We’ve learned we are not bad parents if we say, “no.” We’ve learned the critical need to be strong and loving at the same time.

Throughout Scripture, the Lord was often quite firm in the lessons he taught his followers. His firm hand came with a loving heart. I know what it feels like to want the pain to stop—to want to turn my back on my son and never have to deal with his issues ever again. But he’s my son and I love him. Yet that doesn’t mean I have to accept his choices with open arms, nor does it mean I have to bear the acute financial responsibility for them.

It can be a life-changing moment when we realize that our adult children may need to walk their own Damascus roads to be the people God intends for them to be.

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