At the core of every strong relationship is healthy and honest communication. Honest communication includes learning that how you disagree is often more important than why you disagree. This is essential for defeating mind games the result from poor communication.
Disagreements happen, opinions differ, but arguments should not center on accusation. Let’s consider the enraged husband, who shouts at his wife, “Go ahead and leave; I know you want to” or “Why don’t you run off with your boss? The two of you seem to work really well together.”
Accusing his wife is an unhealthy way of trying to discover her feelings without expressing his insecurities. This is a mind game. Many people who find it difficult to put their feelings into words use accusatory statements during arguments. Let me be loud and clear: it should not take an argument to get to the bottom of what casual conversation had kept concealed.
There are more effective ways to honest communication of doubt, concern, or fear. One doesn’t have to have a genius-level IQ to convey feelings in an honest, clear-cut way. The first step toward building successful and long-lasting relationships is to toss aside the mind games and get back to the brass tacks of honesty .
There are many mixed messages about how a person should feel in a relationship, especially a romantic relationship. A few hours spent watching afternoon talk shows will create lingering doubts if not outright confusion when it comes to relationship advice.
While one side argues how complicated and demanding relationship are the other side implies that if you are lucky enough to discover and marry your soul mate everything will end happily ever after. The balanced truth is strong relationships are not discovered but fostered and carefully maintained. If you long to feel secure in a relationship you must begin by feeling secure with yourself.
Confidence plays an important role in building strong, balanced relationships. Relationships with high levels of communication, trust and a mutual freedom to express open and honest feelings are usually the strongest and most lasting. Learning to feel secure before you enter a romantic relationship will guarantee a strengthened mutual relationship.
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A national conference speaker, Tracey travels 40+ weeks a year, sharing Biblical principles and wisdom. Her real life experiences – though painful and challenging enable her to identify with the hurting, lonely, and rejected. Whether speaking corporate CEO’s or the homeless, Tracey’s passion for re-writing the lives of the brokenhearted makes her messages relevant and empowering. A frequent television guest and host of “Today With Tracey”, she is an advocate of those having experienced rejection, poverty or emotional abuse.
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