HOW DO YOU MEASURE UP AS A MOM?
Do you find yourself evaluating how you’re doing as a mom? I do. Are you burdened by all of the amazing pictures moms post online about the great meal they just made, the cute dress they sewed out of a pillowcase, or the way they put on their makeup with perfection?
It’s easy to feel like you’re the only one who does not measure up to the standard of today’s perception of the successful mom.
Wearing the same yoga pants, and having your hair up in the same messy bun for the past three days will certainly bring a good momma down if she tries to measure up to what she thinks makes her a good mom. We need to be wise about how we measure our success as mothers.
WHAT IS SUCCESS?
First we must answer the question “What is success?” Ken Sande, author of The Peace Maker, says, “The world defines success in terms of what a person possesses, controls, or accomplishes. God defines success in terms of faithful obedience to His will. The world asks, ‘What results have you achieved?’ God asks, ‘Were you faithful to my ways?’…He asks for only one thing–obedience to His revealed will.
‘Fear God and keep His commandments, for this is the whole duty of man’ (Eccles. 12:13).”
Your success as a mother does not depend upon what your child chooses to do with his life. Rather, according to Scripture, success lies in your obedience to God–in what you chose to do with your life.
HOW TO SUCCEED
God has called you to the ministry of motherhood. And with that calling He has provided the Holy Spirit to lead you and guide you in your journey. By being committed to know God through His word, you will grow to love Him more each day, and when you love God properly, you will love your children correctly. And you will parent without regrets.
The Lord has provided tools for you to do well in your calling. By daily communing with Him through the Bible, prayer, worship, and fellowship with the Church, you will be fully equipped for this incredible privilege of bringing up your kids, because God will work through you to raise them for His glory- not your own.
THE KEY TO SUCCESS
Dr. Howard Hendricks, author of Teaching to Change Lives, says, “The key is not what you do for God but what you allow Him to do through you. God wants to use you as His catalyst–and as you let Him transform and renew your thinking, you’ll be ready for His use.”
When you allow God to transform and renew you as a mom, He can use your passionate life to incite your children to follow Him as well. And when your kids follow Christ, He will guide them toward success.
So mom, in this Mother’s Day season, remember not to measure how well you are doing by how your kids are performing. Rather, weigh yourself against God’s definition of success. As you continue to walk faithful in His ways, the Lord is free to work through your obedient life so you can parent with NO REGRETS.