Many of us prefer to stay at the threshold of the Christian life instead of going on to construct a soul in accordance with the new life God has put within. We fail because we are ignorant of the way we are made. We put things down to the devil instead of our own undisciplined natures. Think what we can be when we are roused—Oswald Chambers
The single greatest enemy to our recovery is the state of our minds. Because we have been abused, typically we feel defeated and worthless, which is exactly the message our abusers want us to receive. It’s probably one of the reasons why they abused us in the first place. Although it’s normal to have feelings of worthlessness as a result of these experiences, it’s self-defeating to internalize them and make them part of who you are.
If you want to be a whole person—valuable to yourself and to others—you must renew your mind and reject what your abuser has said about you. Don’t internalize it. If you already have, make a commitment to renew your mind immediately. The way to do this is simple: accept that God loves you and desires your recovery.
The solution is easy, but summoning the courage and the will to transform your mind may be the most difficult thing you ever do. Plus, it’s not a one-time decision. You have to do it every day—sometimes every hour. It’s hard, but the value of making the effort is incalculable.
If you make the commitment and persevere, over time and slowly, you’ll change and become everything God ever intended you to be. If you don’t, you’ll wallow in mediocrity and self-pity for years, perhaps decades. The choice is yours. Renew your mind, or continue to internalize the lies that others have said about you as the truth.
If your desire is to renew your mind and develop godly character qualities, join me in this prayer:
The darkness has lifted—
Darkness permitted by You
To refine my character,
Purging each of my foolish ways
And making me more like
The person I’m supposed to be—
The person I’ve always wanted to be.
In the midst of my despair,
When at night I longed for the day,
And in the daytime desired it to be evening,
When sorrows made it difficult to breathe,
You were always there beside me,
Even when I was certain You were not.
As fear relentlessly rattled every aspect of me,
You continued transforming who I would become.
Ever mindful of my frailties and weaknesses,
You purged, pruned and cleansed from within.
Then, one day, as I awaited my overwhelming gloom
To return, which had become my daily routine,
It was gone—vanished like it had never been there—
Leaving me stronger, more resilient, and far wiser,
As my mind was renewed from the inside out.
My purpose returned to me, along with my smile.
I embraced life with renewed enthusiasm—
No longer chained to my heartache,
No longer imprisoned by my distress.
Father, thank You for purging my shame
And feelings of worthlessness from me.
Thank You for restoring me to wholeness, amen.
Refer to Step 2: I commit to stop living my life in pursuit of self-defeating behavior
Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, that we might know the things freely given to us by God. (I Corinthians 2:12)
To see more on recovery, check out The 11 Steps to Recover from Religious Abuse.